Many years ago, I inhaled, digested and tried to pass on what I learnt of Provocative Coaching by Jaap Hollander. Since no one is as excited about it as I have been, here’s the magnificent text in a nutshell + how I’ve incorporated it in my practice.
Now some of you have been witnessing my blinding growth and flashing changes to the practice in a cross-eyed fashion. Plus, you don’t even know me from the time I started, much less when I was a snarky, bully of a sarcastic pain-in-the-ass kid growing up.
Bitch is snarky. 🙂
My clients will testify that I can often hit the nail on their proverbial heads. Aarti Kuber refers to my style as “something else” and thanked me for my “teers” at the end of a 1.5 hour session with her feminine power+mystique Chandrakala Collective.
Everything I’ve learnt by way of integration my various gifts into one bullet-train of sticky insight is thanks to this fantastic text by Jaap.
Jaap is a torpedo-head like me, and he doesn’t believe in pulling punches on the client.
Here’s the 5Ws and 1 H of provocative coaching as deployed by Mr. Hollandaise in my own telegraphic style.
- the Problem is not a problem. Make it worse. Go along with the client’s catastrophising.
- the coach is not the container. Force the client to step into that role and push you to SEE that there is in fact a problem. Classic reverse psychology.
- the client wants to believe in themselves. Make fun of them, exaggerate their tendency to “split” – aggravate the black and white thinking till they begin to defend themselves. Nicknames are THE love language.
- build the client a coat of self-esteem armour, trust in their ability to step up and be their own parent, own adult, and own inimitable, empowered child.
- take their punches, turn them into jokes. Roasting is the ultimate love style.
Have fun! Therapy is a goddamn drag beyond a point.
To coach with me, read my FAQs, then sign up here. Depending on where you are in your mental health journey, we’ll spend 3-12 sessions on your childhood trauma, then up your game and get you in coaching.
How much, dude?
– 3000 per session which will be between 45 minutes to an hour.
Aqseer Kaur Sodhi 😉
PS – before you come to me for coaching, please watch Coach Carter and The Last Dance. You’ll thank me later.